Christmas is one of my favorite times of the year. This could be that my birthday is in December, but I believe it is more than just that. I believe it is the way that people interact with others. It is also a time where more people are willing to talk about their spiritual journey.
One of the aspects of Christmas is gifts. We take all this time trying to find the best gifts for those that we love. We try not to go over budget…well…preferably. We look forward to the joy our loved ones share when they open their presents.
This brings us to an important question. Have you ever found yourself letdown after opening a present from a loved one? I am sure, if we were to ask our loved ones, we would find they were letdown by gifts they received from us as well. What do you do in these moments?
When it comes to our spouse, there is nothing wrong with being honest. However, this does not mean that we should be cruel or vindictive. It is very important to remember that it is the thought that counts. When we open a gift that we would never use or wear, then we need to be honest. Let’s face it, if we keep the gift then they are going to expect us to wear or use it, so at one point they are going to know the truth.
Be open with why you do not like the particular gift. People can connect with feelings, so share them and you might be amazed. People can argue against logic and/or reasoning; however, they cannot fight against how someone feels.
In the same fashion, when someone comes to us and lets us know they are not satisfied with a gift that we bought them, do not take it personally. It is not about you – even as much as we want to make it about us. We need to allow others the ability to return the gifts that we got them and not take it personally. Again, in the end, what we want most is the other person to be happy and satisfied with what they receive.
The one thing I have noticed as my wife and I have been married for over 15 years is that our tastes have changed. Early on in our relationship, I could buy her clothes without her even seeing them, and she would like 90% of what I bought her. Now, I have her show me what she likes and I still will only get it right about 30% of the time.
In the end, Christmas is not about the gifts. It is truly about the connections. This Christmas, lets keep that as the focus.
What is a gift you have received that was a letdown at Christmas? Do you still have that gift?